Saturday 6 September 2008

Team building and common interests

Reza Hossein Borr

You can only succeed in building a team when you can bring the contrasting interests and turn them into common achievable interests. If the members of a potential team find out that their interests will not be achieved when the mission is accomplished, they will not give sufficient input into the functioning of the team. It is even likely that they may obstruct the smooth functioning of the team as well. It must be mentioned that the preservation of interests becomes more important than collective achievement if the collective achievement does not guarantee the preservation of individual interests.

When few people are chosen to work as team to accomplish a mission, the question of the individual interests must be somehow addressed before they begin working as the team. They must be assured that their interests will be understood and recognized by the leader and appropriately rewarded after achieving the task. Nobody would be engaged in any kind of activity without knowing that his fair share in action would be acknowledged and recognized. When few people work in an organization it may be considered that the salary they receive at the end would be considered as the reward. This is an illusion. In addition to salary, people need specific rewards for achieving specific objectives. The rewards maybe the recognition of their endeavours or some financial gift.

Nobody knows exactly what kind of rewards and interests each individual may request. The best way is to talk to them individually and discover what kind of reward motivates them to go for the collective achievement. Individual achievements are usually recognized. The collective achievements are not recognized in the way that members of a team feel satisfaction. The art of finding what kind of reward satisfies each individual is the responsibility of the team builder. The team builder can achieve this goal by asking a series of questions about how the achievement of the task collectively can satisfy that individual need. What may motivate one person may not motivate another person.

Recognition of individual interests is the most important step in facilitating team functioning. Once I was talking to a client. Whenever my statement about an issue was raised, he asked me this question, "what is there in it for me?" I tried to define the issue from various aspects, but each time he asked me the same question, "What is there in it for me?" This was the first time that my attention was drawn to focus on the interests of other people when it comes to any kind of negotiations with them. If there is something in what we do for them they will participate. If there is nothing indeed for them, whatever we do and say, will not affect them.

If we want the cooperation of others in achieving something we have to make clear for them what will be their reward.

Reza Hossein Borr is an NLP Master Trainer and a leadership consultant and the creator of 150 CDs and 14 Change management models. He is also the author of Manual Success, Manual of Coaching and Mentoring, Motivational Stories that Can Change Your Life, and a New Vision for the Islamic World. He can be contacted by email: sarawani@aol.com www.rezaaa.com

Friday 5 September 2008

The man who turned every project into success

Doing well what you do not like all

Reza Hossein Borr

Few years ago I met somebody in one of my seminars. He had a reputation for turning every project into success. He told me his secret, "I know that I have to excel in doing what I do not like to do. When I take on a project that I do not like at all, I take its full ownership and treat it as if I really love it."

The great achievers are those who do well what is required of them, not what they like. Everybody likes doing well what they love to do. The problem is that the absolute majority of the people have the jobs that they do not like. They get married to people they do not like any more. They have colleagues they do not like. They have parents they do not like. They have children they do not like. They have neighbours they do not like. So if you do not establish very enjoyable working relationships with all these issues and people your life will not be very much enjoyable.

If you do not do your job very well, even if you do not like it, you will be sacked. If you do not treat your partner very well, even if you do not like him or her, you have to go for separation. If you do not treat your parents well, even if you do not like them, you will deprive yourself of the greatest love. If you do not treat your children very well, even if you do not like them, you would lose your children. If you do not treat your neighbours very well, even if you do not like them, you will be engaged in continuous disputes all your life.

The art of living well is about doing well what you do not like and treating well those you do not like. Doing is related to your performance. If you do not perform well you will be assessed as a bad worker. The other people do not evaluate you about your likes and your do not likes. They evaluate you for the quality of your performance. What you like and what you do not like is your personal choice, however, it is not your personal choice to do certain things well and other things not well. If you do not do everything well you will not be considered a reliable person who can turn different projects and assignments into successful endeavours.

You build your own reputation by the quality of your work and the quality of your performance. The other people possibly will not tell you, unless they are your bosses, what they think of what and how your performance is. They know that if they volunteer feedback about your performance, specifically when it is not good, you will feel hurt and people will not like to hurt you. What you do, you will be known for it.

As Thomas Fuller said, "He, who wants fruit, must climb the tree." The tree may be tall and rough. It may be very hard climbing over it, but if you want to get the fruit, you have to do all these things and if you do not do them with pleasure, you are not going to enjoy eating the fruit.

At the beginning things look hard. When you finish them, you say, how easy they were!

Reza Hossein Borr is an NLP Master Trainer and a leadership consultant and the creator of 150 CDs and 14 Change management models. He is also the author of Manual Success, Manual of Coaching and Mentoring, Motivational Stories that Can Change Your Life, and a New Vision for the Islamic World. He can be contacted by email: sarawani@aol.com www.rezaaa.com

Saturday 30 August 2008

How to enable others?

Reza Hossein Borr, London, 29.8.08

Give people a positive reputation and expect them to achieve it. And they will achieve it. Give them a negative reputation and they will live up to it. When you call a child repeatedly stupid surely that suggestion will be accepted by his brain and trains him to become stupid. People can gradually believe what they are called. Whatever you call them they will become.

The important point is how your suggestion is believable? The other side may believe what you say or may challenge your suggestion. If he accepts your suggestions and believes in it he will become it. If he rejects your suggestion he would not become it. The children are not in a position to realise what is true and what is not true. Whatever you call them they may believe in it and they may become it. Even the adults can become what they are called. You expect a kind of behaviour from somebody to happen and then you wait until it happens and confirms your suggestion.

To enable others, you have to look very carefully in their thought process and patterns of behaviours. You can plant a positive purpose and a constructive quality in their thought process and you will see gradually it will appear in their behaviours. The system of plantation of a positive thought or behaviour is very sophisticated and therefore, it should be done very skilfully. Not everybody is able to do so. We can see this from the majority of the parents who tried to train their children to become great people and the absolute majority of them failed. It is not because that the parents did not want their children to be empowered and enabled but it is the lack of skills that makes the children opposite of what they want them to become.

People have different personalities. Each personality is to be dealt separately. Each person must be dealt separately because no two persons are completely like each other. But there are some common factors that could be learnt and skilfully instilled in others. The first and the most important thing is your own ability to make yourself a believable authority, and an affectionate source that has the competence of inspiring. This is extremely vital as those who are supposed to be enabled and empowered definitely need to believe in what you say. At the same time we have to understand that everybody passes advice all the time and nobody listens to them. We therefore must realise that giving advice is very different from coaching and training process of taking somebody to the phase of empowered.

It is even possible that people react adversely if you do not know how to engage in this delicate coaching process. If you turn it into advice you are likely to get an opposite reaction. If your own behaviours in the past have shown that you are not a reliable person, what you say will not have an impact. If your tone of voice does not appeal to the person, his emotions will not be aroused to accept that idea.

If you know how to enable others and they learn how to enable others we will have a society of enabled people who can transform their society. If you enable others you get enabled yourself in the process.

Reza Hossein Borr is an NLP Master Trainer and a leadership consultant and the creator of 150 CDs and 14 Change management models. He is also the author of Manual Success, Manual of Coaching and Mentoring, Motivational Stories that Can Change Your Life, and a New Vision for the Islamic World. He can be contacted by email: www.sarawani@aol.com www.rezaaa.com

Thursday 24 May 2007

NLP and Success

How to Overcome One of Your Greatest Obstacles to Success

With the energy and enthusiasm of a teenager, Caroline finished her last push up and stood to cheers and applause from the crowd.She smiled humbly and took a well-deserved bow.Shortly to follow was her husband, whose daily routine included 400 sits ups and 200 push ups among a handful of other exercises that would test even the most fit of individuals.

After his brief demonstration of youthful strength, Fred and his wife walked over to the talk show host to share their success story.Simply Amazing'I wasn't always in shape,' Fred began. 'There was quite a stretch of time when I could barely see my toes, let alone touch them.''I remember that,' his wife laughed. 'I wasn't any better. I was facing some serious health risks and needed to make some major life changes.'This loving couple worked out every single day smiling through hundreds of push ups and sit ups along with running several miles around their neighborhood.

Nothing that special for someone in their twenties or thirties. Not even that amazing for someone in their forties or fifties.But when you're 89 or 93 years old, that's simply amazing.'I started working toward my goal when I was 65,' said Fred. 'I only wish I had started sooner.'His wife agreed. 'You're never too old to start doing what you want to do, but you lose precious time while you wait to begin.'Absolute wisdom from the lips of an 89 year-old woman whose heart, mind, and body belonged to a much younger girl.

The Exciting Truth About Your DreamsTiming is a central issue when it comes to happiness. While many put their desires off until there is little time left to achieve them, others feel their time has already passed.They are trapped by the misconception that goals and dreams are achieved right out of the gates or not at all.

They feel locked into a life that is far from what they had planned on creating, with the remainder of their days ripe with regret.Bob Newhart, considered to be one of the greatest comics of our time, spent years as an accountant. An accountant! Imagine where he would be today had he felt locked into a life that he wasn't meant to live.Ray Kroc is another prime example of an individual following his heart at a later time in life. Until the age of 52, Kroc spent his time selling shake mixers to restaurants around the country. Then he made that life- altering trip to California for a meeting with the McDonald brothers.

At an age when most people feel their best days are behind them he created a restaurant empire that stretched around the globe.For every Bob Newhart or Ray Kroc who took a chance at a better life there are ten thousand who let their goals and dreams pass them by. The question is, which type of person or you?Bob Newhart and Ray Kroc knew what they wanted. They had a clear goal which made it possible for them to achieve great success.

The problem is, most people don't know what they want.If you're interested in learning a series of insightful exercises to help you uncover your goals and dreams, visit the address below:http://www.motivation123.com/cmd.php?ad=211382

You Have Two ChoicesWe all have goals or ideas of what we'd like to do with our lives, but we all don't achieve them. Many believe the right time passed us by many years ago. This common myth is behind millions of unfulfilled dreams and ambitions.What can you do to break free from its grip? What is the secret that helped Caroline, Fred, Bob, and Ray move past the idea that the 'right time' had passed?

The power of now. It doesn't matter how young or old you may be, you have right now to begin moving toward your goal. There is only one right time and one wrong time: now and later.Now. Right this instant. That's the only time you know you have for sure. Make the most of it and do the things you were meant to do.

Erase the myth that you're too old and go for it.While this idea may be enough to get you started down the path toward your goals and dreams, there is a chance you'll need another piece of vital information.To make sure you have what it takes to get what you want, learning the six keys of motivation and success is critical. Every single success throughout time was made possible by six simple phases that you can begin as soon as today.

To learn the keys and begin living a happier, more successful life, visit the address below:http://www.motivation123.com/cmd.php?ad=211383

Remember Caroline's words: You're never too old to start doing what you want to do, but you lose precious time while you wait to begin.

My Best,Jason M. Gracia

NLP and trouble shooting

News You Can Use...

Trouble getting up in the morning?

A bit obsessed with the snooze button? It's time to mix up the routine! Try a few of the tips below and you'll be out the door in no time at all.

1. Put your alarm clock across the room. Having to get up to turn off your alarm can often be just enough activity to get things moving in the right direction.

2. Purchase a clock with a self-recorded wake-up message. If a loud buzzing in your ear doesn't make for a great beginning to your day, have you spouse, kids, or friends record their own wake-up message to start things off on the right foot.

3. Leave the curtains open. Not only will the natural sunlight shining through your blinds serve as motivation to get out there and enjoy the day, it's also good for you. A startling alarm can disrupt your system, making for a frazzled morning. Instead, let the sun wake you up in peace.============================================In Closing...

'You only live once; but if you live it right, once is enough.'--Adam Marshall

remember...getting motivated is as easy as 1, 2, 3!

Until next time...

Jason M. GraciaFounder, Motivation123™http://www.motivation123.com

NLP and Change

Avoiding the Fatal Pitfall of Personal Change:

Imagine trying to swim the length of a pool with a fifty-pound weight strapped to your ankle.Or walking across a tightrope while a crowd below pelts you with sticks and rocks.Impossible!Regardless of how much you wanted to succeed, you would be dragged down to the bottom of the pool or knocked off the rope in no time at all.

Believe it or not, the very same thing may be happening to your goals. And if nothing is done to save them, you'll be dragged away from all of the things you want for good.Where Does the Problem Come From?We all have an incredibly powerful need to belong and be accepted. We want to feel loved and wanted by the people in our lives.

Can you remember a time when your need to be loved wasn't being met? When you felt unimportant, disconnected, and alone?It's an extremely difficult emotion to deal with as we all know too well. And this is the cause of the problem. Our need to be connected and loved is so intense that we will sabotage our own success in order to maintain our precious connections.

Here is an example. Imagine your goal is to exercise and get in shape. You're not extremely overweight or in any danger, you simply want to take better care of yourself.It's a great goal and something you're really committed to achieving.And then it happens...'That sounds foolish.''Why would you waste your time doing that?''Who are you kidding? You know you can't actually stick to it.'These are the weights that pull you down, the rocks that knock you off course.Your friends and family, with the best of intentions, try to pull you away from your goals.Why Would They Do That?Because of their need to stay connected with you.

If you change and improve yourself, you'll be stepping into a new life and leave your friends behind. At least that's what they think. This is a frightening thought, and it drives the people in your life to keep you from changing.Improving yourself also forces your close friends to examine their own shortcomings. If everyone aims low, no one can notice.

But if one person steps up and aims high, everyone else has proof that they are settling for less.And what do you do in response to these situations?As we've already discussed, you have a deeply rooted need to stay connected with the people around you. Feeling that improving yourself will disconnect you from your friends and family, you'll slowly let go of what could have been a great change in your life.'Maybe they're right, it was a silly idea.

I don't know what I was thinking anyway.'Say goodbye to your goal...Even if you are strong enough to stick with your objective, a constant barrage of criticism and doubt will make success impossible. Change is difficult enough. Being surrounded by naysayers adds too many obstacles to the equation.This brings us to one important principle of motivation, one that you can't ignore if you want to improve your life.

Do you struggle with a lack of confidence? If so, you could be your own worst enemy, constantly talking yourself out of success.

To discover a proven method to triggering a self confidence more powerful than ever before, visit the address below: http://www.motivation123.com/cmd.php?ad=211382

Garcia

NLP and Success

The Five-Person Principle

In life, you become your environment.It's only a matter of time before the desires and choices of your peers become yours - and chances are good that it has already happened.Here's a little exercise you can do to really let this idea sink in. Add up the annual salaries of your five closest friends, divide by five, and see how your salary compares.

Do this with health, relationships, happiness, etc.You'll find that nine times out of ten you fall right in the middle. This is the power of your environment.Having higher standards than your peers is an uphill battle. You need to be inspired every day to create and stick with your goals, not told why they are pointless wishes that will never materialize.

I know that you want more in life, that's why you are a member of this newsletter. To ensure your success, surround yourself with people who also want more in life.Join organizations whose members share your goals and dreams. Make contact with people around your town and around the world who will inspire you to never settle.It all comes down to this: If you become your environment, make sure yours is one worth mirroring.

What Do I Do Next?
If you have the courage to control your environment and ensure that it inspires you instead of hold you back, you're not finished yet. With that courage comes the amazing opportunity of designing your life by choice and not by chance or circumstance.Take in mind your ideal life. Think about what you would be doing, how you would carry yourself, how you would feel about yourself.

Run the images in your mind and imagine that you have already achieved your goals.If this picture is to become a reality, you have to do more than think your way to change. That's almost always an impossible task. You are fighting against years of habits and patterns which will not simply go away.

Our motivation handbook, The Motivated Mind, can show you how to overcome these obstacles and set yourself up for success.You've probably already tried to think your way to change and you know how it turned out. Finally, there is a way to forever overcome this barrier and get what you really want.How long will you wait to make it all happen? My guess is, not another minute.

Today is the day you take the first step. Visit the link below and let's get started on creating a better life!http://www.motivation123.com/cmd.php?ad=211383Always remember, nine times out of ten you become who you spend time with most. Therefore you must examine these relationships, considering whether they are adding to your life or holding you back.With this information in hand, you'll know best how to proceed and how to give yourself the greatest chances of success.

My Best,Jason M. GraciaFounder,
Motivation123™