Doing well what you do not like all
Reza Hossein Borr
Few years ago I met somebody in one of my seminars. He had a reputation for turning every project into success. He told me his secret, "I know that I have to excel in doing what I do not like to do. When I take on a project that I do not like at all, I take its full ownership and treat it as if I really love it."
The great achievers are those who do well what is required of them, not what they like. Everybody likes doing well what they love to do. The problem is that the absolute majority of the people have the jobs that they do not like. They get married to people they do not like any more. They have colleagues they do not like. They have parents they do not like. They have children they do not like. They have neighbours they do not like. So if you do not establish very enjoyable working relationships with all these issues and people your life will not be very much enjoyable.
If you do not do your job very well, even if you do not like it, you will be sacked. If you do not treat your partner very well, even if you do not like him or her, you have to go for separation. If you do not treat your parents well, even if you do not like them, you will deprive yourself of the greatest love. If you do not treat your children very well, even if you do not like them, you would lose your children. If you do not treat your neighbours very well, even if you do not like them, you will be engaged in continuous disputes all your life.
The art of living well is about doing well what you do not like and treating well those you do not like. Doing is related to your performance. If you do not perform well you will be assessed as a bad worker. The other people do not evaluate you about your likes and your do not likes. They evaluate you for the quality of your performance. What you like and what you do not like is your personal choice, however, it is not your personal choice to do certain things well and other things not well. If you do not do everything well you will not be considered a reliable person who can turn different projects and assignments into successful endeavours.
You build your own reputation by the quality of your work and the quality of your performance. The other people possibly will not tell you, unless they are your bosses, what they think of what and how your performance is. They know that if they volunteer feedback about your performance, specifically when it is not good, you will feel hurt and people will not like to hurt you. What you do, you will be known for it.
As Thomas Fuller said, "He, who wants fruit, must climb the tree." The tree may be tall and rough. It may be very hard climbing over it, but if you want to get the fruit, you have to do all these things and if you do not do them with pleasure, you are not going to enjoy eating the fruit.
At the beginning things look hard. When you finish them, you say, how easy they were!
Reza Hossein Borr is an NLP Master Trainer and a leadership consultant and the creator of 150 CDs and 14 Change management models. He is also the author of Manual Success, Manual of Coaching and Mentoring, Motivational Stories that Can Change Your Life, and a New Vision for the Islamic World. He can be contacted by email: sarawani@aol.com www.rezaaa.com
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NLP and Stress
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If you've been around for a few years, you know how hard it can be to even think about improving your life with a world of stress surrounding you.When you're in a state of tension or stress, problems seem overwhelming, your ability to focus vanishes, and getting motivated is out of the question. Fortunately, there is a solution.By putting just a handful of simple tips and tricks to work, you can free yourself from the web of stress and return to a state of mind that is ready to take on any challenge!
1. Get It In Writing One of the most common causes of stress is trying to keep a hundred and one tasks in mind simultaneously. Not only does this keep your mind racing at all hours, it also makes it more likely that an item or two may fall through the cracks - a stress-causing situation.To overcome this obstacle, get your thoughts out of your head and write them down on paper. Once they're in ink, you'll no longer be forced to be a walking filing cabinet and you'll be assured that nothing will be overlooked.
2. Break It Down Taking on any task or project all at once is enough to make even the most calm individuals stressed out of their minds. It is far too easy to become overwhelmed by tackling a problem from all angles in a single glance. Instead, break things down into bite-sized chunks.If you have to clean the house, don't think about cleaning the 'entire' house. Break the task down into rooms or areas and think of nothing else until you complete that chunk of space. Need to help improve your children's grades? Don't tackle their entire education at once. Focus on the next test for the next class.All change is a result of small steps taken in the same general direction - super small steps. Keep this in mind the next time you come up against a potentially stressful problem or challenge.
3. Get Enough Rest Nothing makes matters worse than a lack of rest. It may be common to cut down on the number of sleeping hours you get each night with so much to do and so little time in which to do it, but the outcome is always the same.Instead of getting more accomplished, you're ineffective and irritable, not to mention twice as likely to become stressed out.When the time for bed rolls around, stop what you're doing and get the sleep you need. You can then return to the task the next day with renewed energy and stress-free focus.= = = = =Once you free yourself from stress, you'll be ready to make the most of your time, energy, and life - but how do you get motivated to actually make something happen?The answer? Our simple, six-step system to controlling your drive and motivation. In a matter of minutes, you can learn how to instantly get motivated to do the things you've always wanted to do - and have that feeling last a lifetime. To learn more, visit:http://www.motivation123.com/cmd.php?ad=211382= = = = =
4. Think Here and Now You can only do one thing at a time. No matter how big your to-do list may be, you can't do a thing about items ten, eleven, or twelve until one through nine are taken care of. And you can't do a thing about item two until the first step it accomplished.This is fantastic, stress-releasing news. There is no need to worry your mind with what you have to do next because you can't do anything about it. You can only do something about the here and now, the one thing in front of you.The rest of your tasks and responsibilities will get their chance for action, but until that time comes, focus only on the one thing in front of you.
5. Delegate. While some initially get a sense of strength from taking everything on their own shoulders, the pride they began with is soon replaced with stress and frustration.You don't have to do it all by yourself. Too much to do at home? Get your kids or spouse to lend a hand. Projects at work piling up? Ask a colleague to pitch in. With a team behind you, you'll accomplish more and experience the energy-draining stress less.
6. Laugh! Laughter is not only the best medicine, it's also the best stress reliever. When things get to be too much, head to a guaranteed outlet of humor and fun.Call a friend who always has a great story to share, spend a few minutes at a joke-of-the day Web site, or simply make yourself laugh out loud. When the stress is replaced with laughter, you can return to the task at hand in a brand new state of mind.
7. Give Your Brain a Break For many people, the problems at the office follow them right out the door and into their homes. The cell phone is still screaming and the deadlines to come are still in mind and creating an ever-building tension.Nothing good can come of bringing your work problems home with you, so it's time to make a new rule for yourself. The moment you leave work, leave work.
Tell yourself that you'll get to it all tomorrow, but the night is time for your mind to take a little break from the daily grind.With these simple tips put to use, you can break free from the stress of daily living and re-ignite the motivation you need to enjoy your life!
My Best,Jason M. GraciaFounder,
Motivation123™
If you've been around for a few years, you know how hard it can be to even think about improving your life with a world of stress surrounding you.When you're in a state of tension or stress, problems seem overwhelming, your ability to focus vanishes, and getting motivated is out of the question. Fortunately, there is a solution.By putting just a handful of simple tips and tricks to work, you can free yourself from the web of stress and return to a state of mind that is ready to take on any challenge!
1. Get It In Writing One of the most common causes of stress is trying to keep a hundred and one tasks in mind simultaneously. Not only does this keep your mind racing at all hours, it also makes it more likely that an item or two may fall through the cracks - a stress-causing situation.To overcome this obstacle, get your thoughts out of your head and write them down on paper. Once they're in ink, you'll no longer be forced to be a walking filing cabinet and you'll be assured that nothing will be overlooked.
2. Break It Down Taking on any task or project all at once is enough to make even the most calm individuals stressed out of their minds. It is far too easy to become overwhelmed by tackling a problem from all angles in a single glance. Instead, break things down into bite-sized chunks.If you have to clean the house, don't think about cleaning the 'entire' house. Break the task down into rooms or areas and think of nothing else until you complete that chunk of space. Need to help improve your children's grades? Don't tackle their entire education at once. Focus on the next test for the next class.All change is a result of small steps taken in the same general direction - super small steps. Keep this in mind the next time you come up against a potentially stressful problem or challenge.
3. Get Enough Rest Nothing makes matters worse than a lack of rest. It may be common to cut down on the number of sleeping hours you get each night with so much to do and so little time in which to do it, but the outcome is always the same.Instead of getting more accomplished, you're ineffective and irritable, not to mention twice as likely to become stressed out.When the time for bed rolls around, stop what you're doing and get the sleep you need. You can then return to the task the next day with renewed energy and stress-free focus.= = = = =Once you free yourself from stress, you'll be ready to make the most of your time, energy, and life - but how do you get motivated to actually make something happen?The answer? Our simple, six-step system to controlling your drive and motivation. In a matter of minutes, you can learn how to instantly get motivated to do the things you've always wanted to do - and have that feeling last a lifetime. To learn more, visit:http://www.motivation123.com/cmd.php?ad=211382= = = = =
4. Think Here and Now You can only do one thing at a time. No matter how big your to-do list may be, you can't do a thing about items ten, eleven, or twelve until one through nine are taken care of. And you can't do a thing about item two until the first step it accomplished.This is fantastic, stress-releasing news. There is no need to worry your mind with what you have to do next because you can't do anything about it. You can only do something about the here and now, the one thing in front of you.The rest of your tasks and responsibilities will get their chance for action, but until that time comes, focus only on the one thing in front of you.
5. Delegate. While some initially get a sense of strength from taking everything on their own shoulders, the pride they began with is soon replaced with stress and frustration.You don't have to do it all by yourself. Too much to do at home? Get your kids or spouse to lend a hand. Projects at work piling up? Ask a colleague to pitch in. With a team behind you, you'll accomplish more and experience the energy-draining stress less.
6. Laugh! Laughter is not only the best medicine, it's also the best stress reliever. When things get to be too much, head to a guaranteed outlet of humor and fun.Call a friend who always has a great story to share, spend a few minutes at a joke-of-the day Web site, or simply make yourself laugh out loud. When the stress is replaced with laughter, you can return to the task at hand in a brand new state of mind.
7. Give Your Brain a Break For many people, the problems at the office follow them right out the door and into their homes. The cell phone is still screaming and the deadlines to come are still in mind and creating an ever-building tension.Nothing good can come of bringing your work problems home with you, so it's time to make a new rule for yourself. The moment you leave work, leave work.
Tell yourself that you'll get to it all tomorrow, but the night is time for your mind to take a little break from the daily grind.With these simple tips put to use, you can break free from the stress of daily living and re-ignite the motivation you need to enjoy your life!
My Best,Jason M. GraciaFounder,
Motivation123™
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